Comments on: Get well NOW! http://brokentelegraph.com/2008/04/28/get-well-now/ Sat, 04 Feb 2012 06:17:40 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: maria http://brokentelegraph.com/2008/04/28/get-well-now/#comment-23 maria Wed, 24 Sep 2008 01:03:10 +0000 http://brokentelegraph.wordpress.com/?p=51#comment-23 this is right on....and yes i think Seattle does have at least one major church like that.... “suppresses challenges or questions”, is putting it lightly:) this is right on….and yes i think Seattle does have at least one major church like that…. “suppresses challenges or questions”, is putting it lightly:)

]]> By: The Broken Telegraph http://brokentelegraph.com/2008/04/28/get-well-now/#comment-22 The Broken Telegraph Thu, 08 May 2008 20:51:28 +0000 http://brokentelegraph.wordpress.com/?p=51#comment-22 "Nodded the appropriate number of times" ahaha- an awful spot to be in, isn't it? It does suck to get trapped in "conversation" with someone who's just reciting stuff. I guess if a person gains an opinion or worldview easily, then it's easily shaken (somebody famous said that, and I can't remember who), and maybe that's partly why fanatics of all walks are so frightened by other's doubts, troubles, etc. I never know how to exit those situations, except for awkwardly. Really good post- thanks for taking the time to put it up Tiffany. Many Christians are in the same boat as your husband- we still do and always will have questions, and we don't like what is coming from the mainstream American church either. In my opinion- any church that suppresses challenges or questions from their congregation and guests, or tends to label it as pride, arrogance, sin, lack of faith- that church is on a road to becoming cultish. Unfortunately we've got some churches behaving like that in our city. -ian “Nodded the appropriate number of times” ahaha- an awful spot to be in, isn’t it? It does suck to get trapped in “conversation” with someone who’s just reciting stuff. I guess if a person gains an opinion or worldview easily, then it’s easily shaken (somebody famous said that, and I can’t remember who), and maybe that’s partly why fanatics of all walks are so frightened by other’s doubts, troubles, etc. I never know how to exit those situations, except for awkwardly.

Really good post- thanks for taking the time to put it up Tiffany. Many Christians are in the same boat as your husband- we still do and always will have questions, and we don’t like what is coming from the mainstream American church either.

In my opinion- any church that suppresses challenges or questions from their congregation and guests, or tends to label it as pride, arrogance, sin, lack of faith- that church is on a road to becoming cultish. Unfortunately we’ve got some churches behaving like that in our city.

-ian

]]> By: Tiffany http://brokentelegraph.com/2008/04/28/get-well-now/#comment-21 Tiffany Wed, 07 May 2008 23:47:01 +0000 http://brokentelegraph.wordpress.com/?p=51#comment-21 This, spelled out way better than I ever could, is the exact thing I have been struggling with lately. I work with a girl who goes to multiple Bible studies and is quite active in her church. So when my husband told me that he didn't think that he should go to church with me because he would feel like a hypocrite because he, being the analytical person he is, sees way to many questions with the whole thing. I thought that maybe her and I might have something to talk about for once. What a mistake. I barely got started sharing my dilemma and questions that I felt unable to answer adequately, before she went off on a tirade. Soon I just became a sounding board for what I assumed to be a topic at her next Bible study group, or something she would talk about tearfully at a sharing time. She went off for a good 15 minutes repeating over and over, almost in tears, that God is good, and how can we question him when he is so good. Did I mention God is good? And while I agree completely, otherwise I could care less about the belief's of my husband, and it is not that I mean to question Him I just feel that good questions are being asked and I had no answers. I finally tuned, out nodded the appropriate number of times, let her finish "our" moment and went back to work. I have never spoken of it again. I wish more people would understand that it is okay to not have the answers, and much more appreciated then pretending you do so you can walk away feeling like a better person. Sometimes leaving the person with the problems feeling worse than when they originally started. The short version: Well Stated. This, spelled out way better than I ever could, is the exact thing I have been struggling with lately. I work with a girl who goes to multiple Bible studies and is quite active in her church. So when my husband told me that he didn’t think that he should go to church with me because he would feel like a hypocrite because he, being the analytical person he is, sees way to many questions with the whole thing. I thought that maybe her and I might have something to talk about for once. What a mistake. I barely got started sharing my dilemma and questions that I felt unable to answer adequately, before she went off on a tirade. Soon I just became a sounding board for what I assumed to be a topic at her next Bible study group, or something she would talk about tearfully at a sharing time. She went off for a good 15 minutes repeating over and over, almost in tears, that God is good, and how can we question him when he is so good. Did I mention God is good? And while I agree completely, otherwise I could care less about the belief’s of my husband, and it is not that I mean to question Him I just feel that good questions are being asked and I had no answers. I finally tuned, out nodded the appropriate number of times, let her finish “our” moment and went back to work. I have never spoken of it again.
I wish more people would understand that it is okay to not have the answers, and much more appreciated then pretending you do so you can walk away feeling like a better person. Sometimes leaving the person with the problems feeling worse than when they originally started.
The short version: Well Stated.

]]> By: Ian http://brokentelegraph.com/2008/04/28/get-well-now/#comment-20 Ian Fri, 02 May 2008 19:25:19 +0000 http://brokentelegraph.wordpress.com/?p=51#comment-20 Jonathan, Beth, Yarbs and Bear- thanks for the comments! Jonathan, Beth, Yarbs and Bear- thanks for the comments!

]]> By: Bear http://brokentelegraph.com/2008/04/28/get-well-now/#comment-19 Bear Thu, 01 May 2008 18:38:45 +0000 http://brokentelegraph.wordpress.com/?p=51#comment-19 Well said. Often when someone (i.e Barbo) shares a problem we (i.e. me) immediatly feel the need to try and help them fix it (not sure if that's more for their benefit or our own) when all they really want is someone to listen and understand. Well said. Often when someone (i.e Barbo) shares a problem we (i.e. me) immediatly feel the need to try and help them fix it (not sure if that’s more for their benefit or our own) when all they really want is someone to listen and understand.

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