Comments on: The Danger of Acting Nice Instead Of Being Good PART I http://brokentelegraph.com/2008/08/30/nice-vs-being-good-part-i/ Sat, 04 Feb 2012 06:17:40 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: The Broken Telegraph http://brokentelegraph.com/2008/08/30/nice-vs-being-good-part-i/#comment-190 The Broken Telegraph Wed, 10 Sep 2008 21:49:44 +0000 http://brokentelegraph.wordpress.com/?p=278#comment-190 LOL an ancient art. great points, thanks Rachel... -ian LOL an ancient art. great points, thanks Rachel…

-ian

]]> By: Rachel H. Evans http://brokentelegraph.com/2008/08/30/nice-vs-being-good-part-i/#comment-189 Rachel H. Evans Wed, 10 Sep 2008 19:12:06 +0000 http://brokentelegraph.wordpress.com/?p=278#comment-189 Yes! Yes! Yes! As a Southerner, I have mastered the art of niceness. Take gossip, for example. I can call someone a loser behind her back, add "bless her heart" to the end of the insult, and then sugar-coat the whole thing with a little innocent laughter, without batting an eyelid. Down here, we learn the fine art of polite gossip from our mothers and fathers. It is an ancient art, passed down from generation to generation. I am amazed by how often niceness actually interferes with goodness. For example, when a friend or colleague makes a racial or gender-based joke, I am often tempted to laugh it off. Only recently have I been calling people out, and it hasn't exactly made me more popular around here. Thanks for the excellent post! Lord, deliver me from my niceness! Yes! Yes! Yes!

As a Southerner, I have mastered the art of niceness. Take gossip, for example. I can call someone a loser behind her back, add “bless her heart” to the end of the insult, and then sugar-coat the whole thing with a little innocent laughter, without batting an eyelid. Down here, we learn the fine art of polite gossip from our mothers and fathers. It is an ancient art, passed down from generation to generation.

I am amazed by how often niceness actually interferes with goodness. For example, when a friend or colleague makes a racial or gender-based joke, I am often tempted to laugh it off. Only recently have I been calling people out, and it hasn’t exactly made me more popular around here.

Thanks for the excellent post! Lord, deliver me from my niceness!

]]> By: The Broken Telegraph http://brokentelegraph.com/2008/08/30/nice-vs-being-good-part-i/#comment-188 The Broken Telegraph Mon, 08 Sep 2008 23:33:40 +0000 http://brokentelegraph.wordpress.com/?p=278#comment-188 okay good heather- now we finally have that sorted out. i thought it was you with your distinctive prose... :) -ian okay good heather- now we finally have that sorted out. i thought it was you with your distinctive prose… :)

-ian

]]> By: Myspace Heather http://brokentelegraph.com/2008/08/30/nice-vs-being-good-part-i/#comment-187 Myspace Heather Sat, 06 Sep 2008 02:46:36 +0000 http://brokentelegraph.wordpress.com/?p=278#comment-187 LOL. Thanks, though I thought you identified everything quite clearly, in fact, more clearly...I was just...well, I don't know. Commenting late at night. The last question I meant to say "is being good ALWAYS the same as being moral and upright." Been busy with kiddos and work and spiritual stuff. Wait...I should rewrite that. Kiddos/Spiritual stuff and work. Hehehe. I realized there were too many people long distance to entirely quit myspace. I've enjoyed the columns and only just now have been able to comment. When I'm less lame than now I should drop a proper email, non? Your photos of La Belle Wife and La Belle Kiddo are awesome. L.E. gives a really great perspective- I never really thought of it that way! Much food for thought. LOL. Thanks, though I thought you identified everything quite clearly, in fact, more clearly…I was just…well, I don’t know. Commenting late at night. The last question I meant to say “is being good ALWAYS the same as being moral and upright.”

Been busy with kiddos and work and spiritual stuff. Wait…I should rewrite that. Kiddos/Spiritual stuff and work. Hehehe. I realized there were too many people long distance to entirely quit myspace. I’ve enjoyed the columns and only just now have been able to comment. When I’m less lame than now I should drop a proper email, non? Your photos of La Belle Wife and La Belle Kiddo are awesome.

L.E. gives a really great perspective- I never really thought of it that way! Much food for thought.

]]> By: The Broken Telegraph http://brokentelegraph.com/2008/08/30/nice-vs-being-good-part-i/#comment-186 The Broken Telegraph Fri, 05 Sep 2008 17:02:28 +0000 http://brokentelegraph.wordpress.com/?p=278#comment-186 I'm really happy to hear that, Lisa and I admire your perspective. Nice to know you're reading the site. I hope the second part is an encouragement for you. -ian I’m really happy to hear that, Lisa and I admire your perspective. Nice to know you’re reading the site. I hope the second part is an encouragement for you.

-ian

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